I realize I have been telling you I would write about our work lives---but hey, work gets in the way!
Some of you have asked---so what do you do when you're not exploring monasteries, scaring yaks or eating chillies (Rick)? I am
not a complete lay-about. The lovely thing about volunteer work is that I pretty much decide what I want to do and when. I highly recommend it. Only problem is that it doesn't help with your bank account---or at least your
monetary bank account. My
experience and joy bank account are overflowing.
I have numerous places where I show up and do my thing. In this case, my thing is teaching women/girls about their bodies. I have also branched out into smoking cessation and alcohol issues (both big problems in Bhutan). Here's a synopsis:
1. I am on my second series of having 8 to 10 RTC senior women come to the apt., where we sit around to discuss menstruation issues and sex. Some of the interesting thoughts and questions:
"I thought my first period was the result of getting a leech in my vagina" (amazingly, menstruation is rarely discussed between mother and daughter)
" If a girl has sex before her first period, is she still a virgin?"
" Ewww...how can you ever put that in your vagina?" This in reference to a tampon. I have yet to meet a Bhutanese woman who uses tampons, although they have all heard about them, but never seen one. You can get them in pharmacies, mostly there for western tourists.
2. My favorite gig has been a series of 9 sessions I did for the women in a poor area of Thimphu. These are illiterate women but their curiosity is boundless and we had many good laughs together. I learned many things from them: you can get a urinary track infection from sitting on a cold floor, eggplant is a bad thing to eat if you are pregnant or breast feeding, babies are given ara (the local moonshine) and butter at birth, some diseases are caused by bad spirits, having sex during pregnancy will make the baby have whiter skin. These are common beliefs and it was always a challenge for me to decide how to address them. For the most part, they understand that many of their ideas are superstitious, and really, they are open to other explanations. I had TWO translators. I would say a sentence of about 10 words, and they would go on for a few minutes---who knows exactly what they were saying!! Still, we laughed---a lot. Whether they were laughing WITH me or AT me doesn't matter--it was all fun.
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| Me, teetering on the cultural bridge! |
Here is the "graduating class"---they gave me a wonderful farewell party, cake and all. I still go back on occasion and they all call out to me "Madame Phyllis!" This was my favorite group to teach.
I have learned to never count on having power...
3. You may recall a previous musing I did on Zhiwa Ling, a 5 star resort in Paro. I have been there twice to teach the staff, second time with men and women. Rick comes along and when I am not teaching, we enjoy the benefits of the resort (read FOOD)..and boy, do we enjoy it!
Teaching in the meditation room....
The smoking cessation class...
whoa...power point!
4. Art here is very traditional---taught a certain way and always religious in nature. BUT, there is a great organization here called VAST (Voluntary Artist Studio Thimphu) which has free Sat workshops for kids. I told a story there and the kids drew it---great fun for all of us. There is limited art in schools.

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The story tance happens in any culture...
5. Yes, there's more! I have an Aussie friend who volunteers as a teacher in a lower secondary school (middle school). He asked me to teach the teachers how to teach the girls about menstruation... well,we got to covering a lot else, to many giggles, but anyway, they enjoyed it as much as I did. Afterward, there was dancing and lunch (Don't you dance before lunch?) The aged Chillip (me) had to show them a move or two...and they taught me a few Bhutanese dances, which are very gentle and very modest.

Shaking our booties!
As Rick always says, our job as foreigners is to entertain the locals. Just doing my job!
Oh, and when I'm free, I tell stories at the small, underfunded local library. We move!
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One last gig---two nights in the Amankora, Bhutan's 5 star resort that starts at $900/night per person!
I managed to talk them into letting me do inservices for their female staff---but only if I could stay, eat and bring along my hubby and "driver". I have now taught in three of the 5 Aman resorts here---the rooms are huge, the food is exquisite and the bathtub alone could hold three people. I would never pay to stay here (it's outrageous, the average Bhutanese salary for three months to stay one night)---but in exchange for two hours work? Yep, I can do that.
We do a lot of floor sitting in Bhutan.
The female staff here wear the full kira which is more traditional.
Not a bad view from our room.....
This kind of open and large bathroom seems to be all the rage in fancy high end hotels...but personally, I don't get it...who wants to take a bath in such a public setting? But I felt obligated to try it---so, that night, I lit a candle and bathed in candle light, which was quite nice really. But still....
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The "driver" in our room that is as big as our apartment in Thimphu!
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The next morning, we joined friends to go white water rafting on the ONLY river in Bhutan where you can raft (many believe that rafting offends the river spirits--that plus most Bhutanese can't swim and are afraid of the water.) I might tell you more about that later...
Next in the Musings will be one from Rick describing what he does here. I told him not to get too geeky, but as you know, it's hard to tell Rick anything. : ) He enjoys his work here, as do I. That joy is a big part of why we want to extend our stay here by a few more months. Now, does it make more sense?
LOVE TO ALL.